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My Knotty Truth- No Lye!

I’ve been natural since off and on since March 1995. I’ve rocked everything from a relaxer to loc’s and everything in between. Last night as I was responding to a natural beauty on Twitter, it hit me- THIS SHIT IS TIME CONSUMING! There I said it!!!!!! Sometimes its too much! I dont always want to braid, twist my hair before bed- I miss the days of just laying down! Don’t get me wrong- I LOVE my natural hair, and I will NEVER- EVER relax again – NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But lets be honest- I’ve never in my life had to dedicate so much time into hair. I mix everything that I apply to my hair-conditioner, leave-in conditioner, deep conditioner, hair butters, treatment oils, scalp oils, henna, hair moisturizing mask/clays and lets not talk about the ayurvedic treatments. One day the hair is poppin.. looking like a million bucks….the next she feeling herself- just acting up for NO REASON!!!!! I’m tender headed to the 10th power and DETANGLING IS HATEFUL!!!! Saturday I had a Twitter friend educate me on testing the PH balance in my water-and why I should do it -OK-WHAT??? Among checking labels, and having a boat load of ingredients edged into my brain of what not to use- Now, I gotta put my chemist coat on, get the testing strips and test the PH level in my water???? {OK} you know I’ma do it right ( hehehehehe).

I love my natural hair- we fight, we argue, when I really need her to show up and show out- SHE DOES ( whipping my hair back and forth right now). Having natural hair has made me more conscience of what I put on my hair, and surely has given me greater confidence and pride about my culture. Back in the day if you rocked any variation of a natural you was viewed as “earthy” or “Afrocentric” today- we are from all walks of life and we don’t have to walk around with the “assumed” impression that we are “earthy” or “defend” our hair choices (BTW: there is nothing wrong w/ being earthy or Afrocentric). There is no greater, stronger bond than the natural ladies who network and bond over “HAIR”. The natural movement is growing and getting stronger, and stronger by the day. I love the feeling I get when I sit down, and ” do my hair” – when people ask me ” who did your hair” I gleam with pride when I say ME! When I go to the grocery store, I have 2 baskets- (1) for my groceries, (1) for my hair crack. I feel a rush when I stumble upon an item in the store that “may ” be the answer to any hair woes that I may be having. I’ve awaken out of my sleep when Ive forgotten to wrap my hair with a silk bonnet- ( lol..lol..) – yes, I m pressed sometimes (lol..lol..) I’m loving how kids (especially my daughter) just marvels at my hair and wanna embrace their coils, kinks, and curls!!! So yes, caring for natural hair is time consuming – it can be hard work, even a little frustrating-BUT I love it and there is nothing else I rather be doing 🙂
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Whipping My Hair Back N’ Forth- A’Yianah’s Way

Style: Fro-Hawk

Complete: ( 2 days set/drying time- we do not use heat on our hair- therefore her hair air dried over the course of 2 days) 20 mins-styling

Products Used: Pre Poo Treatment ( Olive Oil/Raw Honey), Baking Soda Clarifying Mix, Yes to carrots shampoo, homemade hair spritz ( Coconut Milk, Coconut Oil, Curl Activator, Distilled Water), and Eco Styler Gel

Tools Used: my fingers, bobby pins

Reason for style: Protective style for the week

Note: A’Yianah is 8 months into her transition. During most of her transition time, she has worn her hair braided, corn rolled, and two strand twisted. We decided to give her hair a “break” and rock an alternate style for a few weeks. Her hair has already begun to thicken up and her edges are growing back beautifully ( thanks to my own concoction).

It was a wonderful sight as a mom to see my daughter rocking her natural so proudly. She was smiling from ear to ear and couldn’t wait to get to school to show her version of a fro-hawk. If any of you follow her on Face Book then you saw the pic’s that she uploaded this morning. Her out fit today- a black and red punk rocker t-shirt, black skinny jeans, and high top Pastry sneaks.. She was channeling her inner Willow Smith/ Rhianna. Stay tuned for further updates on her transitioning journey.

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I was just told- I project a bad image with natural hair!!!!!!!

OMG!!!! I’m on fire sitting here as I type this. If you see smoke- its just me- trying to calm the hell down…

I was holding out on you guys with a major announcement. I’m taking down my loc’s– not because I don’t want them anymore- but because I want them smaller and more uniformed. I was never really happy with the size, so I decided to take down this set, and start them over. I wanted to do the big reveal once I’m done- but that wont be until next week ( heifer messed up my plan).

We’ll I’m at work- sitting at my desk in my office **ok, Im’a be honest- **I’m sitting here looking at You tube videos on how to do a twist out **, you can obviously tell that some of my loc’s are gone. All of the front have been taken down- I only have the back loc’d. I have them two strand twisted going to the back into a pony tail. A co worker ( who shall remain nameless) walks up to my desk and say ” ooh, your loc’s are gone” * insert a big ass kool aid smile on her face*, I responded- yes, but not for good. I start with my explanation of why I was taking them down- she cuts me off –

** This is how the convo continued**

Her: good now you can go and get a relaxer

* insert the gas face and a bubble caption that reads ” GTFOH *

Me: You know I’m not getting a relaxer- I’m Au’Naturale baby ( she knows about the blog, the products, etc) I wont ever be going to a relaxer again- EVER- NEVER- AGAIN will the creamy crack take up residence on my hair!

Her: well you can go see my Dominican stylist ( Lucia) she can blow your hair super straight and it will be down your back-

* insert beads of sweat forming on my nose and silently praying for God to shut my mule-we are in a corporate building and I’m located in the executive suite*

ME:NO- THANK YOU- I’m happy being natural- and when they are all out I will rock a curly fro for a month, then re twist to re start loc’s in September.

Her: chile, please.. all you gotta do is get some protectant, hair oil and you will be good to go- I have a relaxer and I get it done every 2 weeks at the Dominican Salon. You have ” good” hair”- You will be happy with it and you”ll be able to do more with it {hair}. Lucia will hook you up!

** Me thinking to myself- is that what you did when you had to chop off your shoulder length hair into a short bob, because of breakage and bad perms-just use styling protectant, and oil – The oil you had me mixing for you and your daughter?? ummmmm**

ME: well to each its own, but did you ever think that everyone isn’t into the super straight hair – I love my curls- I love being natural!

Her: Why?? who would want to walk around and look like that on purpose?

** adjust my eyeglasses, insert the gas face with a twist and my church finger up!~**

ME: I know thousands of women, men, and children that has CHOSEN to be natural- its a choice-and believe me dear. I’m super fresh , happy, and confident EVERYDAY-regardless of how I rock- Loc’s, Fro, twist out, OR A RELAXER !

Her: ** slowly walking away out of my office** no way, no how would I subject myself or my daughter ( her daughter is 4) to that image.. Good luck with that

* stands up to escort her up outta my space * image of Martin Lawrence comes to mind of him throwing people out of his apartment* hand on my hip*

ME: Good luck with growing your hair back after that bad perm-ooh.. and you have a relaxer scab dangling- U might wanna check that ( :0 )

Divas!!!! I never knew this heifer felt that way about my hair. I’m in complete shock right now.. I’ve never heard a “bad comment” about my loc’s or my natural hair- so I’m completely caught off guard right now.. She had the friggin nerve to waltz her ass into my office and suggest that I project a bad image because I ‘ve chosen to be natural- BISH GTFOH!!!!!!!
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Random: Rock Your Natural


If your natural is sexy and you know it- Clap ya hands!!!!!!

I’m feeling some kinda sexxy today.. I’m embracing my natural, and having a love affair with myself! I’m bare faced ( no make – up) and the locs are just hanging pretty (letting them do what they do)** guess what? I don’t have on my infamous 4inch stiletto’s either**. So to all my fellow sexy naturals out there- hug yourself and ROCK YOUR SEXY NATURAL!!!!!!